If you always try to change your partner, it is easy to make each other to produce psychological conflict, so often run counter to one's desire.

如果你总是试图去改变你的伴侣，就容易令对方产生抵触心理，这样往往适得其反。

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Instead, they fully understand, almost nothing superficial productivity index more stupid, dangerous, can produce the effect of run counter to one's desire.

相反，他们完全明白，几乎没有什么能比肤浅的生产率指标更加愚蠢、危险，更能产生适得其反的效果。

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