Different quote. "Kagan is a self-righteous little man" Now I've got to tell you, that bit about being little, that really hurts.

不同的例证，“卡刚是一个自私的小人“,现在我必须告诉你们，说我小人的那句话，那真的很伤人。

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it's more indirect, more polite and a little bit less abrasive perhaps.

这样来得更委婉、有礼貌，也相对不会伤人感情。

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They're throwing out insults, maybe they're tickling each other, maybe they're making fun of each other, maybe they're making fun of themselves, and there's some aggression to it.

他们会说伤人的话，胳肢别人，取笑对方，取笑自己，而这些打闹是有一定的侵略性的。

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So use the "would you please" pattern if you're asking for something in perhaps a potentially abrasive situation.

所以，当你在可能伤人感情的情况下请求别人做某事时，你可以使用“would you please”句型。

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