If I have to do a poll here,most people, guaranteed,would say praise people.

如果我在这里做一项民意调查，保证大多数人，会说通过赞美来提升。

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If you save a life at risk to your own, you're--you deserve praise.

如果你冒着危险挽救了一条生命,那你是理应受到表扬的

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Because there is a lot of research that shows when we praise people indiscriminately, we are actually in the long run potentially hurting them more than helping them, whether it's their wellbeing,as well as their success.

因为有很多研究显示,当我们不加区别地赞扬别人，我们实际上是在长期地,默默地伤害他们，而非帮助他们，无论是对他们的幸福感，还是成功。

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