恕我斗胆直言，我认为您在问错误的问题。

With all due respect I submit to you that you're asking the wrong question.

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“他们优秀吗”是一个错误的问题。

"Are they good?" is the wrong question.

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但他们尝试解决错误的问题。

But they try to solve the wrong problem.

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So I think this question is very much related to your first one about how we mistake what success really means.

我觉得这个问题与,你的第一个问题紧密相连,就是“我们对于成功的错误理解“

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Now, some people attempted to look at this the wrong way and say, "Look. What a weird topic, morality.

有些人可能会,从错误的角度来看这个问题，“道德，多么奇怪的一个话题。

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And that mistake might mislead us if we start thinking the personal identity case.

如果考虑人格同一性的问题,这个错误可能会误导我们。

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