如果在学校得到的信息与家里学到的不一致，孩子内心会感到不安和压力，同时做出更多试探性的行为。

If they are receiving mixed messages from home and school they will feel uneasy inside and express this through more testing than normal and will feel an inner sense of.

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规则与权威有助于安全感的建立，一个放纵任性的孩子往往没有安全感，所以才会用各种行为去试探。

Rules and authority helps to establish a sense of security, a self-indulgent children often insecure, so will use a variety of behavior to test.

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用试探性的语言描述问题，描述对方正在进行的行为——而不是你的结论。

Describe the problem using tentative language, then describe what the person is doing — not what you're concluding.

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