在这里，交谈的目的不在仅限于表意，而更多的是要理解别人的意见看法。

Here the purpose of speaking is not so much to get a point across, more to find out what others think about it.

youdao

语言不代表一切。最重要的往往是人们在语言下的感受。要正确的理解他们，你就还需要理解别人的感受。

Words aren't everything. The most important thing is often how people feel beneath the words. To rightly understand them you need understand how they feel too.

youdao

我总是试着多听别人说什么，理解他们要告诉我什么。通过了解情况，而进行决定。

I would say that I strive to listen hard to people, understand what they're trying to tell me, get the facts, and then formulate a decision.

youdao