我不明白为什么我的父亲似乎对别人总是比对自己的家人更友善，为别人着想比为自己着想得更多。

I could not understand why my father always seemed to be kinder to others than to his own family and why he thinks of others more than himself.

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他们更关注同龄人，而非自己的家人。

They care less about their families and more about their peers.

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他们只是忙得没有时间来陪自己的家人。

They simply do not have time to spend with their families.

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So the question then comes is given that, do you have the courage to examine who you are, do you have the courage to try to cultivate the capacity to love, not just with them in the abstract, but other human beings, not just your family, but what I call "spill-over love".

因此，问题就是，你有没有勇气去审视你到底是谁？,你有没有勇气去培养自己去爱的能力，不仅仅是抽象的爱，不仅仅是爱家人，而是爱其他所有人，这就是我所说的“满溢的爱”

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what I'm talking about is a space, a safe space in our lives with our closest friends, with our family, first and foremost, with ourselves, will we have the permission to be human.

我的意思是一个空间，生活中的私密空间，和挚友一起时，和家人在一起时，最重要的是面对自己时，我们要准许自己为人。

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