但是，当依赖与独立性自尊的关系失衡，获得表扬和优于别人成为人们获取自我尊重和自信心的主要来源时，问题便不期而至。
However, the problem arises when the balance is distorted, when gaining approval from others and being better than others become the primary source of our self-respect and self-confidence.
“在一桩婚姻中，丈夫与妻子的独立性是平等的，依赖性是互相的，而他们的责任也是彼此之间的” （卢克丽霞“莫特）。
"Then in the marriage union, the independence of the husband and wife will be equal, their dependence mutual, and their obligations reciprocal" (Lucretia Mott).
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