而在书里，英雄人物可以随便犯错误，爱犯多少就犯多少。

In books, the heroes can make as many mistakes as they like.

youdao

你爱的人也是普通人，懂得原谅他们犯的错误，懂得接受他们指出你的缺点和不足。

The person you love is ordinary, forgive the mistakes they accept them, that your shortcomings and the insufficiency.

youdao

这是人们当他们遇到爱时犯的最大的错误…他们试图占有它，他们要求，他们期待，那样就像溢出你的手掌的水一样，爱会从你身边撤退。

This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love... they try to posses it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you.

youdao

I think what I want to do-- And sometimes that explanation is accurate, but the ones that are interesting here are the ones where you misattribute the cause of the arousal-- you make a mistake and think it's love when it might be due to something else.

我想做的是-,有时你的解释是正确的，但是有趣的解释是,是那些你犯了张冠李戴的错误-,你错误了认为是爱,而实际可能是其他的原因。

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