当你想要接近别人的时候，你会因为太亲密而感觉不自在，所以你试图让伴侣保持在一臂之遥。

While you do want to be close to others, you feel uncomfortable with too much closeness and tend to keep your partner at arm's length.

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培养一点潇洒的习惯，不要太在意别人的看法或批评，如此你才能很自在的与他人相处。

Cultivate the habit of a natural and unrestrained, don't too care about other people's opinions or criticism, so you can feel comfortable to get along with others.

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如果你尊重努力工作的人们，你应该与勤奋的人结婚，并非懒惰或者太逍遥自在的人。

If you respect people who work hard, you should marry someone who is hard-working, not someone who is lazy or too easy-going.

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Perhaps you have had this experience yourself, always a slightly uncomfortable one.

也许你们有过这样的经验，总是稍微觉得不太自在。

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It's always a slightly uncomfortable moment, you might say.

那总是稍微令人感到不太自在的时刻，你可能会说。

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