但当你提到“这个男人对你使用的伎俩”时我还是有些担心，因为听起来好像是你或者那本书的作者认为他在故意虐待你。

I have some concern when you write about "the tactics this man used" with you, though, because it sounds as if you or the authors of the book think that he was deliberately abusing you.

youdao

当你的自信心下降了，下次他再虐待你的时候，你站起来维护自己的勇气就更弱了，你就这样周而复始、往复循环着，直到八年的光阴浪费掉之后你才脱身而出。

And when your self-confidence was low, the next time he mistreated you, you had even less courage to stand up for yourself, and the cycle repeated itself over and over.

youdao