父亲命令儿子不要发脾气，要儿子行为举止像有教养的人，或要儿子成为优秀运动员，如果父亲自己不那样做或完全不具备那样的品质，那他就是在白费口舌。

It is a waste of breath for the father to order his sons to keep their temper, to behave like gentlemen, or to be good sportsmen, if he does or is himself none of these things.

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作为一个女性，我觉得良好的教养，端庄的仪表，善良的内心，浪漫又忠于情感和温柔而不软弱的性格是很重要的。

As a female, i think fine education, elegant appearance and a heart with mercy is very important. also romantic and loyal to feelings, feminity but no flabby.

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“我明白了，一个人有教养，又风雅，却不卖弄，不摆架子，该多好啊！”阿蜜沉思地说。

"I see, it's nice to have accomplishments, and be elegant, but not show off, or get perked up," said Amy thoughtfully.

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