On a personal level, a man thinks the woman is giving him a list of problems that she expects him to fix, so he becomes anxious, upset or tries to tell her what to do.

从个人层面上，男人会认为这是女人在给他一大堆事情要他去解决，所以他会觉得紧张、不安，或者试图告诉她怎么去做。

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My friend commented that she would rather learn to face the worst outcome straightforward, but what makes man upset is the feeling of at a loss.

我朋友说，她可能会学着直面坏结果。但真正让人煎熬焦虑的是那种茫然的感觉。

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If a man has seen and heard his father respond with loving words to his mother's upset feelings, then he would have a better idea about what to do.

如果男人曾看过父亲对母亲的难过所表现的爱心言语，他就会比较知道该说什么。

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