When in pursuit of your ideal guy, the very first question you should ask yourself is, “what would a guy with the qualities I want be doing this weekend?

在追求你的理想伴侣时，你首先要问问自己：“我想结交的有素质的人这周末会做什么呢？”

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The idea of the utility of all qualities of this kind, is plainly an after-thought, and not what first recommends them to our approbation.

所有关于这种品质的实用性的观点，很明显是思考后的想法，而不是最初就让我们赞成的。

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The utility of those qualities, it may be thought, is what first recommends them to us; and, no doubt, the consideration of this, when we come to attend to it, gives them a new value.

可以这么认为，最初就是这些品质的实用性给了我们启发，我们一旦这么想了，就赋予了这些实用性一种新的价值。

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First of all, they have to have these qualities, but it's not enough.

首先,他们必须拥有这些品质,但这还不够

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But if the issues linger and the negative qualities you first noticed have manifested themselves in more ways that just an off-putting comment or two (and are impacting your team culture or quality of work), you may have grounds to re-evaluate your hiring decision.

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According to Aldo Sohm, chef sommelier of Le Bernardin in New York, the second wine should build on or maintain the qualities of the first.

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Yet all too often we expect determination, reliability, focus, accountability, integrity and a host of other qualities in others without first making sure we have these traits in ourselves.

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