Likewise, not matching the idea of success others expect from you is only painful if that's what you are seeking.

同样的，不能获得别人期望的成功，只有在你也追求这种成功时才使你痛苦。

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The most painful brokenhearted of person and favorite thing is not separate from others, but when plainly brokenhearted even pretend nothing at! ! ! ! !

失恋的人最痛苦的事不是和最爱的人分开，而是明明失恋了却还要假装没事！

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Hellmut Koenigshaus, parliament's liaison to the military, wrote that the cadets "did not want to go aloft after the painful loss of their comrade and others did not want to continue on the Gorch Fock", Germany's Bild reported.

BBC: Germany investigates alleged Gorch Fock mutiny

But for others the internet and the dotcom revolution has not meant instant wealth but a rather painful lesson in the harsh world of financial wheeler dealers.

BBC: Dot.Com Fever