Growing old is not upsetting, being perceived as old is.

老了并不烦人，烦人的是别人眼外你老了。

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Old, dependable but slightly flaky systems are comforting to most people, not upsetting.

对于旧版本的、可靠性高的并且轻巧简便的系统，大多数人还是感到满意的，而不是忍无可忍。

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The groceries placed on the wrong table are not upsetting at all in themselves. But symbolically they mean your partner doesn't care about domestic order;

食品放错桌子本身并不会引人发怒，但这意味着你的伴侣不在意家里的秩序，他们喜欢随意丢放，混乱不堪。

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So, remember this makes sense if you just think of it as a wave and forget the particle part of it for right now, because that would be very upsetting to think about and that's not, in fact, what's going on, we're talking about quantum mechanics here.

记住如果你们把它看做是一个波,而忘记它是一个粒子时，这就是可以理解的了，因为如果把它看做,一个粒子就行不通了，实际上也不是这样的，这里我们是以量子力学的角度来考虑问题。

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