It may tell you that the friends you're hanging out with now are incongruent with the person you want to be, and that you need to leave that reference group behind and build a new one.

它可能告诉你，自己现在拥有的朋友，与你想成为的那种人毫不一致，你需要远离这类人群，创建一个新社交群体。

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The disparity between Hamlet's mental ability and his physical action makes him a cognitive riddle which rivals that of Sphinx, whose head is incongruent with its body.

哈姆雷特的心智能力和实际行为之间存在差异，这使他成了个认知之谜，犹如身心不一的人面狮身怪兽斯芬·克斯。

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The Grateful Dead, which has been performing since the 1960s and played for a Barack Obama fundraiser four years ago, is another seemingly incongruent selection.

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This is another indicator to me that a great deal of how we do work and organization and management is incongruent with our growing understanding of human beings and how human beings create value together.

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