How polite or how rude you are.

你有多友善或是有多粗鲁。

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You can't tell whether or not someone's an abuser by how polite or friendly they are, or even, in all likelihood, by how they act towards their child or aging parent in public.

从表面上看，他们礼貌友好，从他们在公共场合对待孩子和老人的方式来看你根本无法判断他们是施虐者。

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She had been surprised at how amiable and polite he had been.

她对他如此和蔼可亲、彬彬有礼感到了惊讶。

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The caseworkers told me how grateful and polite the boys had been once they realized they were going to be treated with kindness.

CNN: Don't turn your back on these children

Nepalese film and television stars are giving traffic police in Kathmandu lessons in how to be polite, to help them control their temper when faced with chaos on the roads.

BBC: Nepal film stars teach traffic police politeness

For a generation that's supposed to have forgotten how to be polite, this kid--who was so frustrated with school that he attacked his teacher--was proof that young Japan is still pretty decent.

CNN: ASIANOW - TIME Asia