The researcher John Gottman has found that among married couples, it takes at least five positive comments to offset one negative one.

John Gottman研究员发现，在结婚人群中，至少五次正面的评价才能抵消一个负面的评价。

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When Dr. Gottman really wants to assess whether a couple will stay together, he invites them to his island retreat for a much longer evaluation: two days, not two seconds.

如果戈特曼博士真的想要评估一对夫妇是否会在一起，他会邀请他们到他的岛上静修处进行一个更长的评估：持续两天，而不是两秒钟。

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And John Gottman does a lot of work--Well, what he does is he looks at film clips of couples.

他做了很多工作，他看夫妻的电影片段。

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Incidentally, sort of side topic: The death knell for a marriage for Gottman This is his big finding.

顺便提一下，一个次要的话题：,对他来说婚姻结束的标志,这是他的大发现。

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John Gottman studied married couples.

约翰，葛特蒙研究结婚夫妇。

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You might also try "Emotion Coaching: The Heart of Parenting, " available at emotioncoaching.gottman.com.

WSJ: Tools for Building Self-Esteem in Kids

This 2.5-hour video and handbook are based on years of research on emotional intelligence in children, led by John Gottman, a professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington.

WSJ: Tools for Building Self-Esteem in Kids