If this is not the help you need - voice it out, without getting defensive.

如果这不是你所需要的帮助，大声说出来，不用有所戒备。

youdao

Clearly and crisply state your complaint and its impact without getting defensive or aggressive.

明白清楚地说明你的抱怨及其影响，但不要采取辩驳或挑衅的方式。

youdao

Hear what your friend or mate has to say first rather than jumping to conclusions or getting defensive.

先要倾听你的朋友或伙伴说什么而不是急于下结论，或是心存戒心。

youdao

I've certainly written code that has this problem, I've tried to use my own code that has this problem, and good to us, right, good hygiene, I'm going to use that word again here, of getting into the habit of writing defensive code up front, it's part of that collection of things that you ought to do is a great thing to do.

我举手了吧？,我当然写过犯这种错误的程序了,我也尝试过应用含有这种错误的代码，不错，好的卫生，我还是要用这个词,对我们有帮助，养成写防卫性,代码的好习惯，是你应该做的,一系列事情之一,也是我们日后要做的主要的事情。

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Listening means not getting defensive even if we disagree with what someone is saying, even if they are attacking us.

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You can stand up for yourself without getting defensive or angry.

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