However, the problem arises when the balance is distorted, when gaining approval from others and being better than others become the primary source of our self-respect and self-confidence.

但是，当依赖与独立性自尊的关系失衡，获得表扬和优于别人成为人们获取自我尊重和自信心的主要来源时，问题便不期而至。

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You should work on gaining more self confidence so that you'll be more comfortable around couples.

你必须增强自信，这样你在情侣身边才会更加从容不迫。

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Adopt Goldsmith and Brown's simple strategies for gaining self-confidence (try one each day), and in just 21 days, you'll feel happier and more at ease.

戈德史密斯和布朗就重获自信给了12个简单的攻略，每天做一条，只要21天，你就会变得更快乐、更惬意。

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"My father always advocated gaining self-confidence outside the family business because once you're in, you never know if you're doing a good job or if people are just being nice to you, " he says.

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