Your first child, your son, showed you that despite doubt, fear and procrastination, when he arrived he was immediately your deepest and most profound love.

你的第一个孩子，你的儿子，向你显示出，尽管怀疑、恐惧和拖延，当他到来时，他立刻是你的最深最深的爱。

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Then he went to the girl and said, "my child, if I do not chop off both of your hands, then the devil will take me away, and in my fear I have promised him to do this."

他走到女儿跟前，对她说：“我的孩子，假如我不砍掉你的手，恶魔就要把我抓走，我吓坏了，就答应了他。”

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In the meantime, understand that your child is probably uncomfortable with large groups of people, and don't make them feel guilty for that fear.

与此同时，也要明白你的孩子在面对一大群人时并不感到舒服，别让他们因此而内疚。

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Fear about losing status in the neighborhood, not being able to send your child to a good college or not being able to retire as early can build tension, she explains.

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