It means that our acceptance of life as it is allows us to change our lives according to who we actually are, rather than according to some external and internalized code.

而是说我们承受生活本来面目使得我们的生活跟着最真实的自己而变化，而不是跟着外部和内化的编码变化。

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People have obviously not internalized the lessons of the Great Recession, and a change is therefore in order.

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