只有当你不想了解你心意中存在的混乱，你才会逃避，你会求助于某人，一个领导者或上师。

It is only when you do not want to understand the confusion that you run away from it, and then you will turn to somebody, to a leader or a guru.

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对某人如配偶特别的依恋，在作出决定或回答问题之前都要求助于他。

Relying on someone else, such as a spouse, to make decisions or answer questions they previously would have handled themselves.

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