让你自己失落并不值得，你是一个很棒的人，对你而言学会爱自己、尊重自己是多么重要的事情。

You do not deserve to put yourself down, you are a wonderful person and it is important that you learn how to love and respect yourself.

youdao

我总是在茫然中辨不清方向，我也知道，我的爱与你无关，那是我一个人的事情，就像秋天凋零的叶，是从自己树上落下来，我的心疼只有我自己知道。

I am always at a loss in the disoriented, I know, my love has nothing to do with you, that is my own things, like withered leaves fall, fall down from his tree, my heart only I know.

youdao

自己爱自己是很重要的，但是这并不是你应该做到的，一旦你和你的另一半在一起的时候就把对其置之不理。

Self love is important, but it's not something you should achieve and then throw away once you're with your partner.

youdao

So the question then comes is given that, do you have the courage to examine who you are, do you have the courage to try to cultivate the capacity to love, not just with them in the abstract, but other human beings, not just your family, but what I call "spill-over love".

因此，问题就是，你有没有勇气去审视你到底是谁？,你有没有勇气去培养自己去爱的能力，不仅仅是抽象的爱，不仅仅是爱家人，而是爱其他所有人，这就是我所说的“满溢的爱”

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