当有人问你做什么的时候，你的第一反应是拒绝，这时暂停一下，问问自己，“我这么说是否只是因为害怕？

When somebody asks you to do something and your gut reaction is “no”, pause to examine that “no” and ask yourself, “Am I saying this simply out of fear?

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我要问你两个问题：第一个是——你当初住在这里的时候，你是怎么努力保存着人类通常所有的同情之心的？

I want to ask you two questions: the first is — How did you contrive to preserve the common sympathies of human nature when you resided here?

youdao

我的第一个问题是：你介不介意我问你是否结婚了？

My first question is: Do you mind if I ask you if you are marriage?

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And, believe it or not, I have students walk in and first thing a hand goes up and says do you have a pen? I cannot believe it.

不管信不信，我有些学生走进来，第一件事就举起手问,你有没有笔，难以置信。

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