Because in the effort to be distanced from being what you don't want to become, you fail to become authentically you.

因为在努力远离你不喜欢自己变成的样子的同时，你也失败的成为真正的自己。

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To become who you want to be and get what you want out of life you have to be selective and put your focus in the right places. And cut out or reduce the old stuff that is holding you back.

如果你想成为你要成为的人，如果你想过自己想要的生活，那你做什么都要有自己的自主选择性，并把你的注意力放在正确的地方。

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You will become what your opponents want you to be when you are in despair, when you are insensitive, when you quit and don't care anymore.

如果绝望、麻木、放弃、不在意了，你变为了你的对手希望你成为的那部分。

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They want to become the gatekeeper to what you see, and then be paid to allow folks to see what you have to say.

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