"Offers to help are often perceived as criticism," Apter said.

“提供帮助往往被看作是批评，”阿普特说。

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Dr Apter said one woman she spoke to began receiving messages from her mother-in-law-to-be two months before the wedding.

阿普特博士称，一位受访女性称，她在结婚前两个月就不断地收到婆婆的来信。

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"It just makes things worse," said Apter.

“只是让事情更糟，”阿普特说。

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John Apter, of the Hampshire Police Federation, which looks after the welfare of officers, said the cuts were only "the tip of the iceberg".

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