而假如我们的父母处于一种不健康的关系，那种虐待的动向又会让人感觉亲近和欣慰。

However, if our parents were in an unhealthy relationship, an abusive dynamic will feel familiar and comforting.

youdao

如果你处在一种泄气的情况下，比如不健康的关系和令人不舒服的工作，你必须去改变那种情况，不然你就不能使你的自信增长。

If you're in a situation where you're discouraged, such as an unhealthy relationship or a miserable job, you have to change that situation if you want your self-confidence level to grow.

youdao