但朗的回答却给了我一个启示：当我们思索幸福时，我们通常想到的是一些非同寻常的事，纯粹的快乐极致——但是随着我们年纪越来越大，那些极端的快乐好像越来越少了。

But Lan’s answer reminded me that when we think about .... happiness, we usually think of something extraordinary, a pinnacle of sheer delight---and those pinnacles seem to get rarer the older we get.

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所以，在那个通常充满快乐，到处是铃声，到处都是穿着晚礼服的人的时刻到对我们来说这儿，完全是另一种情况。

And so, that time that is usually supposed to be a time of merriment and ringing of bells and wearing of ball gowns, but in our case was very different.

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人即关系是最重要的可以改善我们快乐的外部因素，通常，我们不快乐的最根源是因为与别人的不良好的人际关系。

This is the most important of all the external conditions that can improve your happiness quotient. Often our deepest sources of unhappiness are found in poor relationships with others.

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