对于那些没有黑洞秘密，可是却在给别人保守黑洞秘密的人们来说，问题会更糟糕。

The problem is even worse for people who don't have black hole secrets but are holding such confidences for others.

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但是，对于那些隐藏着某些他们自己认为阴暗、可怕的秘密的人们，我就会建议他们去坦白，而且，不光是因为要获得轻松。

But I often advise clients who are hiding something they think is dark and awful to confess it, and not just because of the relief they'd feel.

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因为你是那种人们会向你倾诉他们的问题和秘密的人，因为你富有同情心，并给他们带来希望。

Because you're the sort of person people tell their problems and secrets to, because you're sympathetic and give them hope.

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We often feel like things bleed out of us and so people will systematically overestimate the extent to which other people notice their secrets.

我们通常会觉得我们的秘密要泄露出来,所以人们心里经常会觉得,别人都发现了他们的秘密。

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