首先，你需要明确他的动机，因为如果深层原因不能解决，他就有可能重犯。

First, you will need to identify his motivations because unless the underlying cause is addressed he is likely to do it again.

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在明确他是你喜欢的人之前，不要投入过多的精力，从小事开始积累彼此的信任。

Develop a relationship, do small things first instead of investing too much into the relationship and work with people you like.

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园丁明确他自己想要的结果，他只做自己所该做的工作，然后就放手不管后面的结果。

The gardener is clear about the outcome he desires, he does the work required but then he lets go or detaches himself from the outcome.

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That is a rather odd thing to think about, especially when Brooks goes so far as to say that he has a particular desire in mind.

这想起来更奇怪，尤其是当布鲁克斯更加进一步说明,他脑子里有一个明确的愿望。

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In fact, he even claims -- and he does this explicitly in Areopagitica he even claims to be in favor of censorship in a number of cases.

实际上，他更声明并且明确地在《论出版自由》中,他更在一些案例中声明他支持出版控制。

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He is clear about that. But then he goes on to say, and that's the natural right to property.

他非常明确这点，但之后他又说，而且财产权是自然权利。

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