但是，如果目标让你感觉绝望和沮丧，那么是时候重新考虑自己的目标了，对不对？
But if a goal leaves you feeling hopeless and frustrated, it may be time to rethink your goals, right?
它另人感到鼓舞因为这让人感觉你是很喜欢做他的请求并且请求的事情也没有什么不对的。
It's encouraging as it lets the person know you like the idea (of course, only say this if you do like it) and there's nothing wrong about it.
对人不对事：如果你的目标是这个人(“你是个恶心的作者”)，而不是他们的行为，你会惹恼他们，使他们心存戒备，或是感觉受到伤害。
It focuses on the person. If you focus on the person (" you're a lousy writer ") instead of their actions, you will make them angry or defensive or hurt.
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