更糟的是，如果你把你的问题告诉了不是跟你结婚的那个人——如朋友、同事、任何其他人——这就相当于不去把脏衣服洗好晾干而是留它烂掉。

Worse if you voice them to people not in your marriage - i.e. friends, coworkers, anyone else - then instead of airing your dirty laundry you let it fester.

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如果那个人只是情绪不好（可能是因为你做了什么事情，也可能不是），或许你能通过诙谐的玩笑减轻他的这种情绪。

If the personis just in a bad mood (maybe because of something you did, maybe not)you might be able to lighten the mood with a little bit of playfulness.

youdao

问题4 是/否——如果你不马上对某个人来电，有可能他/她就不是我的“那个人”

Question 4: True / False -- If I don't have passionate feelings for someone right away, chances are s/he's not "the one."

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