男人的友谊建立在共同的活动上——参加一场球赛,玩扑克,做办公室里的同一项目。
Men's friendships are often built around Shared activities — attending a ball game, playing CARDS, working on a project at the office.
共同的活动或共同的生活使这种关系形成了规范的结构:也就是说,日常生活的模式已经以一种深深影响双方的方式固定了下来。
Shared activity or a Shared life leads the relationship to have a normative structure; that is, the patterns of everyday life become fixed in a way that deeply involves the partners.
然而,正如尼古拉·a·克里斯·塔基斯和詹姆斯·h·福勒所写的新书《联系》(Connected)所言,我们实际上的确通过距离远近和共同的活动来选择我们的朋友。
And yet, as the new book Connected by Nicholas A. Christakis and James H. Fowler shows, we actually do choose our friends through proximity and Shared activity.
We do not have a language for that, or a set of activities for that.
我们没有共同的语言,也没有一系列的活动来做这件事。
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