她说道，“在解释为什么不想我的小孩做某事的问题上，我已经有了很大的改进，而且当他们做对了事情的时候我会给予称赞。

I've got much better at explaining why I don't want my children to do something, and at praising them when they do something right.

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Reason解释做某事的原因，cause(导致)某事发生。

A reason explains why you do something. A cause makes something happen.

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but if you explain it to your friend that you or she should not have or should have done something,

如果你想要向你的朋友解释，或者她应该做某事的时候，

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Use this pattern in any situation where you want to explain you've done it before.

当你想解释之前已经做过某事的时候，可以在各种情形下使用这个句型。

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You want to use the "so ~ that" pattern to help you explain why you can or can't do something.

使用 “so ~ that”句型可以帮助你解释你能够或者不能够做某事的原因。

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