For example, figure out ahead of time what to call your stepparent.
比如，提前想好该如何称呼你的继父或继母。
So what can you do to adjust to the daily realities of living with a stepparent?
为了适应每天与继父或继母一起的生活，你能做些什么？
Don't overreact.If your child criticizes his or her stepparent, try not to overreact.
不要反应过度如果你的孩子批评你的新配偶，注意不要反应过度。
Don't overreact. If your child criticizes his or her stepparent, try not to overreact.
不要反应过度如果你的孩子批评你的新配偶，注意不要反应过度。
But I do not mean to give you the idea that talk is all it takes to be a good parent or stepparent.
但我的意思并非只要交谈就能当好父母或继父继母。
For example, even when someone likes a new stepparent, it's natural to feel some pangs that this new person is "replacing" a beloved parent in some way.
比如，面对继父或继母，你感到非常痛苦，因为这个人在某种程度上取代了你深爱的父亲或母亲，这种感觉是很正常的。
Your parents and new stepparent might not have thought about the things you're asking either, so there's an opportunity to explore options together.
你的父母和继父母可能也没想到你提的问题，这是好机会，你们能够一同解决问题。
But managing your anger and taking extra care to choose respectful language will help your stepparent see you for the mature person you are, not as a child.
但是要克制你的愤怒，措辞要十分慎重，礼貌的语言会让你的继父或继母认为你很成熟而不是孩子气。
Instead of worrying about the "what ifs" and the inevitable changes, talk to your mom or dad about what to expect before your new stepparent joins the family.
不要为种种假设或不可避免的变化而担忧，与你的母亲或父亲交谈，谈谈在继父或继母来之前你该做些什么。
Even if you don't have negative feelings about the new person in your family, you may have very strong feelings about the changes a stepparent is creating.
即使你不反感家里的新成员，你也会强烈地感觉到，这个人带来了一些变化。
Even if you don't have negative feelings about the new person in your family, you may have very strong feelings about the changes a stepparent is creating.
即使你不反感家里的新成员，你也会强烈地感觉到，这个人带来了一些变化。
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