You don't want to marry me.

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And there are different studies, some of them asking, "Who do you want to marry?" Other studies, ?" "Who do you want as a mate? Who do you want as a sexual partner?"

还有些其他研究会问…,“你最想和谁结婚？“还有些问…,“你想和谁做朋友？和谁做性伴侣“

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So, suppose you fall in love with somebody and you decide you want to marry them and then somebody was asked to ask you why and you'd say something like, " "Well, I'm ready to get married this stage of my life; " I really love the person; " the person is smart and attractive; I want to have kids" whatever.

假设你爱上了某人,想要与对方一同步入婚姻的殿堂,要是有人问你为什么想要与对方共度余生,你大概会说，“现在我已准备好要开始婚姻生活了;,或“我真心的爱着他;,或“他聪明有魅力;,“我想要小孩了“，等等。

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So, in fact, you might want to marry John because he reminds you of your father or because you want to get back at somebody for betraying you.

所以，事实上你想与约翰结婚,可能是因为他让你想起了你的父亲,或是因为你想要报复曾经背叛了你的人。

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