.. What you can't change, loses-- when you focus on the fact that you can't change it, it loses some of its grip to upset you.

你无法改变的-,当你专注于”你无法改变它“这个事实，它就不会让你那么难受。

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What are the kinds of things that you can change and destroy?

哪些东西,你能改变并摧毁？

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