You can't just add up all the pleasures and subtract the pains, or add up all the accomplishments and subtract the failures, or add up all the knowledge and subtract the ignorance and deception.

你不能只是把快乐加起来然后减去痛苦，或者仅是把成功相加再减去失败，或者把学问相加再减去蒙昧和欺骗。

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Because there is a lot of research that shows when we praise people indiscriminately, we are actually in the long run potentially hurting them more than helping them, whether it's their wellbeing,as well as their success.

因为有很多研究显示,当我们不加区别地赞扬别人，我们实际上是在长期地,默默地伤害他们，而非帮助他们，无论是对他们的幸福感，还是成功。

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