He doesn't literally mean even that when we talk to ourselves somebody pats us on the head " and says, "Good man. Perfect. I'm very proud."

他更不是在说,当我们自言自语时,会有人拍拍我们的头,说“做的好，非常棒，我为你自豪“

耶鲁公开课 - 心理学导论课程节选

Just doing a simple thing, that again come back to Thich Nhat Hanh, talks about when you're feeling some pain, or stress, anxiety, put your hands over your heart, and breathe and say "I care for your pain and I care for your suffering."

只做一件简单的事，正如一行禅师所说，感受到痛苦，压力，焦虑时，感受到痛苦，压力，焦虑时，双手交叉，放在心口上，呼吸，自言自语道,“我在乎你所受的痛苦和煎熬“

普林斯顿公开课 - 人性课程节选

So you may want to spread happiness, through your word.

你也许想传播快乐，通过你的言话。

哈佛公开课 - 幸福课课程节选