And depending on the mood I'm in, I either congratulate them, or I say ah, you screwed up, huh? Then you had to fix it.
看起来他们挺为这事儿自豪的,我的回应得看我的情绪怎么样了,我可能会庆祝他们或者说,啊,你搞砸了。
In other words they respond extremely well.
换句话说他们回应得很好。
And response back is "Well, yes, we had people at the table, but they were Oxford educated and they didn't represent the rank-and-file people in my culture."
而他们得到的回应是,“是的,的确如此,可是那些人读的可是牛津大学,他们并不能代表,我们的普通民众“
You can only hurt the one you love because you are expecting positive feedback from the one you love.
之所以这样说,是因为,你总期待着他们给你积极地回应。
You've got to put yourself in other people's shoes to figure out what they care about and what they're going to try and do, so you can respond well to that.
你要学会换位思考,去分析他们的收益是什么,他们要怎么做,并依此做出回应是很难的
Yes. -They'll respond?
对,-然后他们回应?
I didn't really care but had to ask anyway, "how different?" And they would say, " "Well you know, we expected you to be more outgoing."
我无所谓,不过总得回应,“有何不同?“,他们会说,“这个嘛,我们以为你很外向“
And I wonder if you can articulate how you understand the people who object to your positions, and how you articulate their views in some of your responses?
我很好奇,您能否告诉我们您是怎样理解,那些反对您立场的人们的呢?,在您的回应中,您是怎样驳斥他们的观点的呢?
Well, when she was made to look attractive they were delighted when she gave them positive feedback about themselves.
当她打扮得很入时时,他们会非常高兴,如果这个女人给自己积极回应。
So there's kind of this idea that attractive people, their feedback to us has more impact.
所以一些关于有魅力人的观点,他们的回应对我们更有影响力。
The phenomena is known as "emotional contagion, where if you're facing somebody, for instance, and they're they look at you in a face of absolute rage, it is very difficult to just sit there without your own face molding in accord to their own.
这种现象就是情绪感染,例如,你看着某人,他们怒气冲冲看着你,你很难只是坐在那里,不去回应他们的愤怒。
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