最重要的一点是，你必须为自己的行为承担更多的个人责任。
The most important one is that you have to take more individual responsibility for your actions.
为了避免欺骗自己，可以小心自己的各种借口并试试这个测试：问问自己，如果你的行为是公开的，而且任何人都可能在背后看着你，你会有什么感觉。
To avoid fooling yourself, watch out for excuses and try this test: Ask how you would feel if your actions were public and anyone could be watching over your shoulder.
像“走自己的路”，“靠自己的双脚站立”，或者当我面对某些行为招致的后果时，我母亲最喜欢说的一句话：“既然你已经铺好了床，就躺在上面吧。”
"Make your own way", " Stand on your own two feet" or my mother's favorite remark when I was face-to-face with consequences of some action: "Now that you've made your bed, lie on it."
最近网上发起了一项反对浪费食物的活动，这可能会让你重新审视自己的浪费行为。
Recently a campaign against food waste launched online might make you think twice about being so wasteful.
当看到自己的孩子显示出尊重别人的行为时，你要让他知道你是多么为他感到骄傲。
When you see your child exhibit respectful behaviour, make sure he knows just how proud you are of him.
你怎么看待把别人的东西留给自己的行为？
What do you think of the action of keeping others' thing for yourself?
如果你想隐藏自己的行为，那就表明你在冒险，并将风险合理化。
If you'd rather hide your actions, that's an indication that you're taking a risk and rationalizing it to yourself.
你不能通过读一本书来改变自己，也不能通过看一段视频来改变自己的行为方式。
You can't change who you are by reading a book or change the way you act by watching a video.
然而，同样的分享行为会为你自己带来安全问题。
However, that same act of sharing could be problem for your own security.
你应当为自己的愚蠢行为而感到羞耻。
你对自己的行为感到害臊吗？
你要对自己的行为负责。
好消息是你可以通过改变自己的行为来影响你挚爱的健康。
The good news is, you can influence your beloved's health just by changing your own behavior.
所以，如果你认为自己存在拖延的问题，尝试下把你的行为和思维分开。
So, if you think you have an issue with procrastination, start by separating your actions from your thoughts.
我相信这些行为是你避免自己的担心和不适感的方式。
I believe these behaviors are means of avoiding your own fears and discomfort.
没有人会到把你从自己的愚蠢行为中搭救出来。
但是有的时候，你据顶不改变自己的行为。
请讲一下，某次你对自己的行为失望的经历。
Tell me about a time when you were disappointed in your behavior.
如果你非判断地观察自己的行为、但带着持续改善的愿望，你将比严责自己、或原谅或替自己的缺点辩护要收获多得多的东西。
If you observe your own behavior non-judgmentally, but with the constant desire to improve, you will get much farther than if you berate yourself, or excuse or justify your shortcomings.
改变自己的态度、行为和行动，你就能改变自己的运气。
By changing your attitudes, behaviours and actions you can change your luck.
然而，对于因为行动中的拖延或懒惰使得自己停滞不前的行为，你却饶恕了自己。
Yet you excuse yourself from taking action by procrastination or laziness which is nothing more than ego trying to stop you.
安全感—让你的伴侣觉得和你在一起很安全，你自己的温暖行为会让对方更容易表达对你的温暖。
Make your partner feel secure and safe with you, make it easier for them to express tenderness towards you, with your own tender actions.
避免你脑子里的混乱，而不致自己的外在行为混乱，你应该试着更多地关注你自己的思想。
To avoid chaos in your mind resulting in chaos in the outside world, you should try to observe your thoughts.
用同样的试验心态观察你自己一天中的行为和思想。
Use the same experimental mindset and watch how you behave and think throughout the day.
你需要一个小组或负责任的伙伴来鼓励你、扶持你、为你祷告、无条件的爱你，并且监督你为自己的行为负责。
You need a small group or an accountability Partner who will encourage you, support you, pray for you, love you unconditionally, and hold you accountable.
然而，纽曼的建议是，管好你能控制的东西——你自己的行为——带领你们的婚姻走向更好的境地。
Instead, Neuman suggests, take charge of what you can control - your own behavior - and take the lead in bringing your marriage to a better place.
然而，纽曼的建议是，管好你能控制的东西——你自己的行为——带领你们的婚姻走向更好的境地。
Instead, Neuman suggests, take charge of what you can control - your own behavior - and take the lead in bringing your marriage to a better place.
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