不要立刻尝试解决你伴侣的问题。
不要质疑你伴侣断论的正确性。
确信你伴侣的行动暗示着他对你的爱。
Make sure your partner's actions are indicative of someone who loves you.
再现你伴侣最喜欢的电影中的浪漫情节。
你能接受你伴侣的怪癖。
弄清楚你伴侣和孩子的动机。
如果你伴侣的怪癖是可以忍受的，那你还挺不错的。
Even you! If your partner's quirks are endearing or tolerable, you're in good shape.
你能接受你伴侣的怪癖。
要是不能顺着你伴侣的心意，你们会有矛盾的。
Problems with your mate will develop if you don't let them have their way.
房间里的一些拆了包的香烟很容易使你伴侣的禁烟行动夭折。
Open packs of cigarettes around the house could easily break your partner's resolve to quit.
父母对你伴侣的前任男(女)朋友反感什么，就强调自己正在此相反。
Emphasize aspects of yourself that are the opposite of what the parents disliked about your partner's ex (es).
如果你不停地考虑并谈论你伴侣的缺点，这会放大你的不满。
If you constantly think and talk about your partner's flaws it can amplify your discontent.
存在其他的因素，因为人们对于你伴侣的职业会说一些闲话。
There is other baggage because people are going to say something to you about what your mate does?
你在乎着你伴侣的感受，就如同在乎着你自己的感受一样吗？
Do you care as much for your partner's feelings as you do for you own?
“当你结婚了(年轻时)，你可能认为你可以改变的你伴侣”，她说。
"When you get married [young], you may think that you are going to change your partner," she said.
根本性的改变会在接下来的几年内上演，可能会影响你伴侣的财富。
Radical changes in the next few years will take place that affect your partner's wealth.
考虑在说“我爱你”时注视你伴侣的眼神或者看着窗外、望着地板说同样话的区别。
Think of the difference between saying "I love you" while looking into your partner's eyes, or saying the same phrase while looking out the window or staring at the floor.
譬如，对你伴侣的漫不经心不要感到受伤害和气愤，而是开始安排一对一互相关注的时间。
Instead of feeling hurt and angered by your partner's inattentiveness, for instance, start scheduling one-on-one time to focus on each other.
这样的沟通可以减轻你伴侣的防御反应，把你对其的干扰变成你们共同处理的事情。
What can we do about it? "That style of communication will lessen your partner's defensive reaction, and turn an obstacle into something you tackle together."
你可能认为你伴侣的温柔鼓励会帮助你更坚定地执行你的计划，如重修房子或健身。
You might think a gentle nudge from a loving partner would help you stick to your plan to redecorate the house or get in shape.
如果你感觉到确实如此，请在意你伴侣的感受并且改变你的方式，不要使钱成为控制关系的手段。
If you sense this could be true, be sensitive to your partner's feelings and go out of your way not to make money a method of control.
从另一方面来说，如果你伴侣确实表现得很糟糕，好吧，那你就撕碎支票本走人吧，不当她的饭票了。
If on the other hand, your partner has been behaving badly, well, then, you will have to take hold of the checkbook and let the chips fall where they may.
在纸上列出关于你伴侣的十件事，将它粘在早上一眼就能看到的地方，如他们的衣柜，或者是浴室镜子上。
Write down 10 things you love about your partner on a sheet of paper and stick it somewhere they will see it first thing in the morning, such as inside their wardrobe or on the bathroom mirror.
如果你尚不清楚威胁是什么东西，让我给你界定。它是会造成你伴侣身心俱痛的口头陈述、姿势表情和行为动作。
If it's not clear to you what a threat is, let me define it as any statement, gesture or act that is designed to create physical or emotional pain in your partner.
现在诚实：告知你每天的活动信息，给你的伴侣提供你活动日程安排表，在那些可能影响你伴侣的活动上做重点强调。
CURRENT HONESTY: Reveal information about the events of your day. Provide your spouse with a calendar of your activities, with special emphasis on those that may affect your spouse.
最近有研究表明：与你伴侣肌肤接触或者眼神交流似乎会让女性为你倾倒，甚至就算是一张关于他的一张照片也会对她有着深厚的影响。
A recent study showed that the touch or sight of a partner seems to anesthetize women, and even a photograph of their loved one is enough to have an effect.
千万别旁敲侧击。如果你伴侣给孩子穿衣服，那么就不要抱怨穿得不好。如果你想事情按照你的想法去做，那么你就要自己去做。
No carping from the sidelines. If your partner got the kids dressed, don't criticize the outfits. If you want something done your way, do it yourself.
这也是安慰她人很好的方式。最近有研究表明：与你伴侣肌肤接触或者眼神交流似乎会让女性为你倾倒，甚至就算是一张关于他的一张照片也会对她有着深厚的影响。
It also relieves pain. (Really.) A recent study showed that the touch or sight of a partner seems to anesthetize women, and even a photograph of their loved one is enough to have an effect.
你必须乐意在私密方面逐渐了解自己和伴侣。
You have to be willing to get to know yourself and your partner intimately.
需要其他朋友并不意味着你不爱你的伴侣。
Wanting other friends doesn't mean you don't love your partner.
应用推荐