You grieve and want to move forward in a way that memorializes them.

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"You feel guilty about it, but they wouldn't want you to grieve forever, " she said.

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We pray that you'll find strength in knowing that our nation will always grieve with you.

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Obviously we can't bring back your friends that were lost, and I know that each and every one of you not only grieve for them, but have also over the last 10 years dealt with their family, their children, trying to give them comfort, trying to give them support.

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So I want you to know that whenever a young American soldier or marine, sailor or airman is killed in conflict anywhere in the world, we, the people of Britain, grieve with you know that your loss is our loss, your families' sorrow is our families' sorrow and your nation's determination is our nation's determination that they shall not have died in vain.

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Grieve with others if you can, alone if you must.

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