" She also writes, "say goodbye to Maria, and tell her that I ask that she keep you company many times, because that will give you joy.

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Seek out people who give you joy, and take time to enjoy them.

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But unless you think that what you are watching is believable, there is no joy in it and you may as well give up.

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But whether or not your sister likes the book, it may give her joy to think about you thinking of her.

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What we can take from Phillips aka Dear Abby is a healthy respect for the joy that life delivers but an understanding that if you really want to give advice you cannot pull punches.

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And then, coming to a realization that having peace and joy in your own life, some relationship with a higher being can give you most of what you wished for.

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