It's hard to say what it means to "not know" that youaregay until late in adulthood, said Gail Wyatt, sex therapist and professor at the University of California, Los Angeles.
The kind of gay activists who think you can't be authentically gay unless youare permanently in opposition to the mainstream find the prospect of gay assimilation appalling.
For instance, typing in the word "gay" on many of these search engines that are filtered ISP's will not allow you to access anything to do with gay content.