My initial response to my dissatisfaction at MIT was to blame the fact that I was a sleep-deprived mother of a one-year old adjusting to singleparenting.
Instead of putting on a false facade where we keep it together at work, only to have our home life blow up in divorce, affairs, family disintegration, or singleparenting.
Both Shu and Gaensbauer observe that most children can work through and overcome a single traumatic episode without any obvious long-term effects, given supportive parenting and caretaking.