Our attention to video games in the cases of some shootings but not others is what psychologistscall confirmation bias, and it creates the illusion of a correlation where there is none.
We said we were building children's self-esteem so they could be successful, but it never occurred to us that giving kids what psychologistscall "cheap self-esteem" could do more harm than good by making our kids think they're 10-feet tall and bulletproof when they're neither.