The urban sociologist Fred Kent and I noticed how well pedestrians unconsciously adjust their paths to navigate around each other -- except for the texters, noses pointed to the ground, who routinely bumped into people.

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Study other people to see how they do it (unconsciously) for ideas if your own natural repertoire is small.

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It asks you to be objective in relationship to yourself. (Think about that for a moment and see if your head explodes.) And it demands you be enough of a skilled empathizer that you can inhabit the minds of others and generate a deep, ideally intuitive sense of how they experience you consciously and unconsciously.

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If you do a PIPL.com search on yourself, you may be surprised to discover just how exposed you are online, consciously or unconsciously.

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Therefore, to move along the scale to consciously or unconsciously competent, you need to work on HOW you think about money, which is a completely different skill than having specific knowledge about investments or other personal finance topics.

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However, how does it effect the way you run your business and is it unconsciously creeping in to undermine your success?

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